🌿 Before Your Constellation
🤍 1. Set a Soft Intention (Not a Goal)
Rather than trying to “fix” something, reflect on what is asking to be seen.
Examples:
- “I want clarity around a repeating pattern in my relationships.”
- “I feel blocked or heavy and don’t know why.”
- “I want to feel more at peace in my family system.”
Keep the intention open and flexible. The system reveals what is ready.
🕊️ 2. Gather Only What You Know (and That’s Enough)
You do not need a full family tree.
Helpful (if available):
- Significant losses (miscarriages, deaths, adoptions)
- Major traumas (war, displacement, abuse, addiction)
- Exclusions or secrets (estrangements, forgotten relatives)
If you don’t know these details, that’s okay. The constellation works beyond conscious information.
🌬️ 3. Tend to Your Nervous System
In the days leading up:
- Prioritize rest and hydration
- Limit emotional overload (doom-scrolling, heavy conversations)
- Practice grounding (breathwork, gentle walks, meditation, music)
- A regulated body allows insight to land more gently.
🔥 4. Release the Need to Understand Everything
Constellations speak through felt sense, imagery, and emotion, not logic.
You are not required to:
- Analyze
- Explain
- Perform
- Relive trauma
- Allow curiosity to replace expectation.
🌙 5. Bring Consent & Boundaries With You
You always have the right to:
- Pause or stop
- Decline participation
- Stay present without sharing details
Let your facilitator know if you have:
- Past trauma
- Dissociation
- Sensitivity to group settings
A trauma-informed facilitator will honor this fully.
- ✨ On the Day Of
- 🌿 Eat, hydrate, and arrive grounded
- Avoid substances unless explicitly discussed beforehand.
- 🕯️ Dress comfortable
Layers are helpful—emotional shifts can affect body temperature.
- 💫 Arrive with openness, not pressure
- Healing unfolds in layers. One constellation can initiate change without resolving everything at once.
- 🌱 Aftercare Matters
After your constellation:
- Drink water
- Rest
- Journal or reflect softly
- Avoid intense processing or over-sharing immediately
- Insights may continue unfolding for days or weeks.
🤍 A Gentle Reminder
You do not need to be “ready,” healed, or strong.
You only need willingness.
Family Constellations meet you exactly where you are—honoring your story, your lineage, and your nervous system.
